It’s worth (not)doing

It seems to be an American value, or at least a western one, that we always must be accomplishing something in order to be worthy. Someone once told me I had a Ph.D. in GSD (getting s%&$ done). I had a belief that if I stopped “doing” I wouldn’t be valued. This belief was confirmed when I met a woman who had three very successful adult children. She spoke about her son who had scored a 1600 on his SATs […]

Ignite Your Fire

One of the reasons I became a personal coach and shadow work facilitator is because I witnessed my own transformation from this work and know the power it has to move mountains in a person’s life. Since I began my business, I have witnessed many other people who have experienced the same. Welcome to Shadowland The concept of shadow work is to recognize when “shadows”, or the voices that hold you back, come up. If you think you’ve never met […]

Dragon as Archetype

  She closed her eyes. She could see the insides of the eyelids of a Dragon. The eyelids opened up to a thin slit, and she tried to peak out. The light was blinding. She closed her eyes again, and she could see the intricate and colorful pattern on the outside of the eye being spotlighted by the sun. She slowly opened her eyes again, and looked down her thin nose and saw a trail of smoke, and felt her […]

Confidence and You

People aren’t just born with confidence.  Like most behaviors, confidence is learned and practiced.  There are many simple tips you can implement to help develop your confidence.  As with any list of tips, the intent is not to try and do all of them at once; rather, choose the one or two that feel like they would work best for you and your circumstances.  As with most tips, practice will be required, so give them an honest effort and be […]

Land of the Free

The last few weeks have been cataclysmic in our country. The struggles of black people throughout this country’s history and the sharp edge of law enforcement and authority pressing their might against those who are most vulnerable. It’s left me feeling exasperated, frustrated, angry, and action-oriented. This month it’s been 30 years since I arrived in the US, so I’ve been thinking alot about my own journey to this country that expresses itself as, “land of the free, home of […]

A Well Rested Woman

One of the things I notice most when working with a new client is the mental and physical exhaustion they suffer around life goals and purpose. They have the drive and ambition, but not the energy to manifest. This is because the mental exhaustion of our day to day lives around what we SHOULD be doing as opposed to what we ARE doing can be profound.   I used to operate like this, believing I was functioning happily in my […]

Fear is just the passenger

One of the things I’ve been so grateful for in this time of Covid-19 is how many more relaxation and meditation tools have become available online. From celebrities to meditation experts, churches to online town halls, just about everyone is sharing what modality are working for them.   Fear and Creativity A couple of months ago I ran across a meditation on fear, recorded in response to Covid-19 given by the author Elizabeth Gilbert. The meditation inspired me to pick […]

The positives and perils of screen time

I don’t know about you but I’m spending even more time in front of a screen these days than I was before, which was more than I wanted to begin with! Still, it feels important and necessary during this time where we can feel stuck at home, lonely and isolated. It’s truly amazing that we are able to have these kinds of face to face interactions that we wouldn’t have been able to have 20 years ago. There is something […]

How to Stay Inspired and Inspire Others

Life is hard enough when we don’t have the confidence to see us through uneasy times. It’s difficult for us to not “go negative” when we don’t feel empowered to inspire ourselves, let alone others. Authentic Confidence People with authentic confidence have a unique ability to inspire. Confident people are positive, believe in possibilities, and see barriers as minor challenges or obstacles that have to be overcome. This is why confident people attract. They have a “go get ‘em” aura […]

The Power of Optimism

Being optimistic is more than seeing the world through rose-colored glasses. Optimism shows itself through attitude, belief, and actions. When we are optimistic everything in life is different. Optimistic people: Set more goals and put more effort into attaining their goals. Stay more engaged when challenges arise.  Cope better during stressful times. Feel better about themselves and the world around them. In fact, it turns out that optimism is a predictor of work performance. The higher the optimism, the better […]